For added effect, say “You first” with a completely straight face. Deadpanning is a subtle way to push back when someone is trying to intimidate you.
If they keep saying mean things, you can put your hand up and say, sarcastically, “Thanks for the example, you’ve done a great job. ”
This one could really drive someone nuts, especially if they’re your sibling or close family member. Use it with caution!
Avoid using this on adult family members or people in positions of authority. In those situations, it’s better to be funny than blunt.
Be careful if you think someone could act out dangerously. While you’re never responsible for someone else’s behavior, you should always look out for your own safety. Talk to a responsible person—like a trusted adult or authority figure—if somebody’s behavior makes you uncomfortable.
You can also use this on bullies if you think they’ll back down, but don’t do it if you’re worried they’ll act out. In those situations, try a different comeback. As always, talk to a responsible adult or authority figure if someone’s behavior makes you uncomfortable.
Standing up to a trash-talker empowers other people to stand up for themselves too. Chances are, you’re not the only person whose feelings have been hurt by this person.
You can also say “You can’t talk to me like that” or something similar. The goal is to show them that they can’t say whatever they want.
Avoid using this with someone that actually is in charge, like a leader or authority figure.
Bring it up with them later if you’re not sure what you did wrong. Someone may get offended for lots of different reasons, and it never hurts to own up to your mistakes.
It’s best not to say “ha ha ha” if someone is genuinely upset with you, since it can seem dismissive. In those situations, it’s best to apologize when you get the chance.
Ignoring someone works best if they’re trying to get your attention.
